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February 2018

No competition: 3 ways to stop comparing yourself to others

Raise your hand if you have ever said these things to yourself: I wish I were ______. I don’t fit in. If I was as smart as her, I could … I never wear the right thing I can’t do _____ as well as _____ Am I as pretty as her? I don’t know about you, but I could raise my hand to all of these. With just a quick scroll through Instagram or Facebook can make you evaluate all sorts of things if we are viewing from the perspective of comparison. Everyone “seems” to have it all put together while you si[...]

Beyond Insecurity: What gaining weight taught me about faith

Standing there, I stared at her. The roundness in her cheeks. The fullness of her hips. The belly. Ugh, the belly. I saw her, and she was me. Staring at my husband, I said words about my body I would never say to a friend. That morning, I changed clothes ten times. Angrily, pants after pants were thrown to the floor as if to punish them for fitting incorrectly. Everything felt wrong. At that moment of not being able to fit any of my clothes, I realized the same insecurities plaguing me as a young girl who[...]

Get connected: 3 reasons why you should join a small group

Being a part of a small group at my local church has radically changed my life. Even though I have been rooted in a local church most of my adult life, being plugged into community was not easy for me to do. I became accustomed to relying solely on the friends I already had in my life and shutting others out. The fear of rejection and judgment often kept me isolated from welcoming new people into my life. It just seemed more comfortable (or so I thought). After another military move to a new city where we[...]

Healthy Marriage: 3 lessons about celebrating holidays as a military wife

Being a military wife is already hard, but celebrating special days without your spouse can be particularly tricky. Sometimes, I just want to climb in my bed and just sleep the day away, but I know that is not a healthy response. Instead, I have learned a few healthy lessons that have helped me focus more on what I have in my relationship beyond a date on my calendar. Sign up here to receive your own 20 days to a healthy marriage. Lesson 1—The status of my relationship is not defined by a date Throughou[...]

A simple box

There it was in the living room, a simple brown cardboard box. At one point in this boxes life, it was privilege to house generations of pictures of our family. Now, it was tossed to the side, prepared to meet its next phase in life—recycling. I left it there in the living room, totally expecting to return to it later that evening to send it to its next destination. Upon returning to the room, what do I find? Three boys who have turned the once useless box into a castle in which they were knights protect[...]