Determined to finish: 3 ways to push through when you feel pulled away
You’ve done it.
Your goals are written. Your meals are planned. Your alarms are set.
You mapped out all the steps for a positive, productive week.
What you didn’t plan for is the discomfort you feel in the process of making healthy changes. Oh yes—the difficult parts. The parts of juggling being a wife, a mom, a professional, and let’s not forget it’s the first week of school. The parts of wanting and planning for change when you see no results. We start to feel stressed out, anxious and overwhelmed from being too busy.
One pull after another pull and your motivation dwindles.
But it doesn’t have to be this way. With three simple decisions, we can choose to push through even when life seems to pull us away.
Check your capacity
I don’t know about you, but my days are usually pretty full. I am a wife and a mom to all boys. At any given time, I am a referee, taxi driver, subject matter expert, and a horrible Fortnite player. On top of that, I have a day job, because we all know being a wife and mom is a full-time job all by itself. Between the needs of my family, the responsibilities of my career, and my desire to maintain my friendships, I can feel stretched and pulled some days. Can you relate?
Nothing pulls at us more than when we give beyond our capacity.
We allow control to get in the way of delegating responsibility. Our hands and our attention don’t have to be on everything. Let the kids make their lunch. Let the team member lead the meeting. Allow your husband to fold the towels (even though he folds them wrong). Tell your friend you can meet next week. Most importantly, be okay with saying no.
Pushing through when you feel pulled away often lies in how we manage our boundaries. We just cannot be in all places, do all things, for all people. We are not God. We have limits. When you start to feel pulled, choose to push through being busy to have margin to chooose your best yes.
Celebrate the steps
Feeling pulled in many directions happens when we focus more on what we have left to do instead of what we’ve accomplished. Sure you may not have the entire paper finished, but you did complete a page. The new product has not sold out, but you sold another one. You haven’t lost the 15 pounds, but you are one pound lighter.
Celebrating the small victories encourages up to maintaining long-term change. Acknowledging your progress boosts your confidence to continue making choices to push through even when you feel pulled away from what matters. One step is the first of many victories to accomplishing big dreams and big change. Recognize the good!
Effective or efficient
Throughout the day, there are quite a few opportunities and responsibilities that pop up to pull your attention. People who want to make their need your priority. In those moments you must decide, effectiveness or efficiency?
Efficient people focus on getting things done, but effective people focus on getting the right thing done.
Where is your focus? Are you focused on merely checking off tasks or are you zoned into the steps needed to move towards your goal?
When we align ourselves with who and what matters most, then we can push through the distraction. We are not so easily swayed by the unrealistic demands of our time and energy. Let’ be honest. Focusing on too much doesn’t get a lot done. Actually, it creates the opposite effect. Instead of feeling the need to multi-task, identify your priorities and stick to them. The rest can wait!