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mistakes in marriage

8 mistakes in marriage wives can avoid

Being married is amazing. But even the healthiest marriages are not free of challenges. There are those obstacles we cannot control that impact our marriages like sickness, job loss, or miscarriage. Then there are those mistakes in marriage we can avoid. If we want to continue growing, then identifying common mistakes in marriage and improving them is essential.   1. Making your husband and his behaviors responsible for your actions One big mistake I made early in my marriage was inadverte[...]

For better or worse: 7 ways to cultivate a healthy marriage during the Coronavirus Pandemic

For better or worse. Those were the vows, right? For some, being at home with the love of your life might be feeling a little strained right now.   Are you noticing how loudly your spouse chews? (Did he always eat like that?) Maybe, those socks on the side of the bed are getting on your nerves? How hard is it to clean a mug? Or is he tired of seeing your hair in the shower? Irritated you keep using his charger and not returning it? Friend, if you said yes to any of these, you might b[...]

I hear you: 3 tips to become a better listener in your marriage

Okay, I will be the first to admit, listening was (sometimes still is) my best skill as a wife in those beginning years. It took some time, multiple mistakes, and hard conversations for me to learn how to become a better listener to my hubby. I had good intentions, but good intentions are not enough when it comes to effectively communicating and listening to your husband. Nope. I heard what I wanted to hear or listened so that I could respond. Then it hit me. What if instead of saying, “I am li[...]

Living whole: 3 ways to let your spouse help you deal with trauma

Trauma is hard. It creates a jumble of emotions. You find yourself feeling vulnerable, exposed, angry, and unsafe, even with the people you love and trust the most. Even with the best of intentions, when we have experienced trauma, it can find a way into our marriages. It finds a way to hide in the deepest, darkest places in our hearts (especially when we have not taken the time to acknowledge our trauma or get help). We have arguments about things that don't matter. We say things we don't mean. We hold on[...]