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Marriage

For better or worse: 7 ways to cultivate a healthy marriage during the Coronavirus Pandemic

For better or worse. Those were the vows, right? For some, being at home with the love of your life might be feeling a little strained right now.   Are you noticing how loudly your spouse chews? (Did he always eat like that?) Maybe, those socks on the side of the bed are getting on your nerves? How hard is it to clean a mug? Or is he tired of seeing your hair in the shower? Irritated you keep using his charger and not returning it? Friend, if you said yes to any of these, you might b[...]

I hear you: 3 tips to become a better listener in your marriage

Okay, I will be the first to admit, listening was (sometimes still is) my best skill as a wife in those beginning years. It took some time, multiple mistakes, and hard conversations for me to learn how to become a better listener to my hubby. I had good intentions, but good intentions are not enough when it comes to effectively communicating and listening to your husband. Nope. I heard what I wanted to hear or listened so that I could respond. Then it hit me. What if instead of saying, “I am li[...]

Living whole: 3 ways to let your spouse help you deal with trauma

Trauma is hard. It creates a jumble of emotions. You find yourself feeling vulnerable, exposed, angry, and unsafe, even with the people you love and trust the most. Even with the best of intentions, when we have experienced trauma, it can find a way into our marriages. It finds a way to hide in the deepest, darkest places in our hearts (especially when we have not taken the time to acknowledge our trauma or get help). We have arguments about things that don't matter. We say things we don't mean. We hold on[...]

Moving forward: 3 healthy responses to offense in marriage

Offenses don't just happen in your marriage; offenses occur in all marriages. You are not alone. But how do you respond? Are you the angry wife? You know, the one who stomps around your home angrily cleaning hoping your spouse will get the hint. Are you the dangerous wife? The one who uses offense as ammo, shooting down any attempt of intimacy. Are you the controlling wife? The one who refuses to do anything or give anything unless everything goes your way. Are you the loving wife? Oh, she's the one[...]