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I hear you

I hear you: 3 tips to become a better listener in your marriage

Okay, I will be the first to admit, listening was (sometimes still is) my best skill as a wife in those beginning years. It took some time, multiple mistakes, and hard conversations for me to learn how to become a better listener to my hubby. I had good intentions, but good intentions are not enough when it comes to effectively communicating and listening to your husband. Nope. I heard what I wanted to hear or listened so that I could respond. Then it hit me. What if instead of saying, “I am li[...]

Living whole: 3 ways to let your spouse help you deal with trauma

Trauma is hard. It creates a jumble of emotions. You find yourself feeling vulnerable, exposed, angry, and unsafe, even with the people you love and trust the most. Even with the best of intentions, when we have experienced trauma, it can find a way into our marriages. It finds a way to hide in the deepest, darkest places in our hearts (especially when we have not taken the time to acknowledge our trauma or get help). We have arguments about things that don't matter. We say things we don't mean. We hold on[...]

Moving forward: 3 healthy responses to offense in marriage

Offenses don't just happen in your marriage; offenses occur in all marriages. You are not alone. But how do you respond? Are you the angry wife? You know, the one who stomps around your home angrily cleaning hoping your spouse will get the hint. Are you the dangerous wife? The one who uses offense as ammo, shooting down any attempt of intimacy. Are you the controlling wife? The one who refuses to do anything or give anything unless everything goes your way. Are you the loving wife? Oh, she's the one[...]

Building a marriage: 3 signs you’re sabotaging your marriage (+ what you can do about it)

Building a marriage: 3 signs you're sabotaging your marriage From the moment my hubby asked me to marry him, I was on cloud nine. I couldn’t wait to start my life as Mrs. Mamie L. Pack. I practiced signing my name. I flaunted my ring whenever I had the opportunity. Oh yes, I could not wait for our lives together to start. We started off doing all the right things. We did pre-marital counseling, often talked with our pastor, and loved talking to each other all the time. What I didn’t prepare for those b[...]

No Drama: 3 way to prioritize your marriage and avoid stress during the holidays

Oh, just thinking about the holiday season gives me all the feels. From gathering around the table with family and friends at Thanksgiving to dancing around to the hubby’s Christmas playlist, I look forward to this time of year. But with all that excitement, there might be a little Grinch hidden behind all your joy. That lingering feeling is stress. From celebrating birthdays, school performances, end of the semester, playoffs, parties and traveling, our days and nights through the holiday season[...]