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I hear you: 3 tips to become a better listener in your marriage

Okay, I will be the first to admit, listening was (sometimes still is) my best skill as a wife in those beginning years. It took some time, multiple mistakes, and hard conversations for me to learn how to become a better listener to my hubby. I had good intentions, but good intentions are not enough when it comes to effectively communicating and listening to your husband. Nope. I heard what I wanted to hear or listened so that I could respond. Then it hit me. What if instead of saying, “I am li[...]

Living whole: 3 ways to let your spouse help you deal with trauma

Trauma is hard. It creates a jumble of emotions. You find yourself feeling vulnerable, exposed, angry, and unsafe, even with the people you love and trust the most. Even with the best of intentions, when we have experienced trauma, it can find a way into our marriages. It finds a way to hide in the deepest, darkest places in our hearts (especially when we have not taken the time to acknowledge our trauma or get help). We have arguments about things that don't matter. We say things we don't mean. We hold on[...]

Moving forward: 3 healthy responses to offense in marriage

Offenses don't just happen in your marriage; offenses occur in all marriages. You are not alone. But how do you respond? Are you the angry wife? You know, the one who stomps around your home angrily cleaning hoping your spouse will get the hint. Are you the dangerous wife? The one who uses offense as ammo, shooting down any attempt of intimacy. Are you the controlling wife? The one who refuses to do anything or give anything unless everything goes your way. Are you the loving wife? Oh, she's the one[...]

The Good Wife: 3 signs you are nagging wife (+what you can do to change)

When are you going to pick up your socks? You bought all these groceries but didn’t pick up the one thing I wanted. Why am I the one who is always helping the kids with their homework? That’s not how it’s done. Blah, blah, blah, blah. Does this sound like you? Oh, it sounded like me, alright. Even though I desired to be a loving wife, I didn’t realize somewhere along the way I became the nag. Every day I woke up decided today I would be loving, I would be kind, and I would NOT fuss. I would make up[...]