How many times have you been stuck in the inner dialogue within your mind?
You know those thoughts we would never say to a friend. The thoughts which reveal how we honestly see ourselves. Ideas like:
I’m never good enough.
I always mess things up.
No one loves me.
I’m never going to get this right.
I’m not as smart as her.
I don’t fit in.
All of these insecurities become the lens through which we interpret the world around us. Whether we realize it or not, those thoughts of insecurity hold us hostage and prevent us from developing healthy, thriving relationships. Insecurities, when not properly addressed, seep into every aspect of our lives tainting our perspectives about our bodies, marriage, friendships, work, success, and personality. When left unchecked, jealousy, bitterness, anger, and being critical become the fruit of our insecurities. Then little by little, we start to drown.
But there is freedom in God’s word.
Being anchored in the truth of His word keeps us from being swayed or even drowning in our insecurities. We get to live a life free from the captivity of those negative thoughts. So what do you do when insecurity begins to creep up?
Well, let’s walk through three truths we can keep anchored in our hearts so that our insecurities do not easily sway us.
God is enough
One common insecurity women face is the idea we are not enough. No matter what we do, we feel will never measure up. We believe the lie we are not smart enough, pretty enough, small enough, or good enough. For most of us, we allow our performance to prove we are worthy enough to be his wife, to be their mother, or to have the job. If we work hard enough, then maybe, just maybe we can prove our worth.
Girl, allow me to burst your insecure bubble, you are not enough, but God always is. The only one who has been, is, and will ever be enough is Christ. Only He can be all things for all people at all times. Only He can fill the void of insecurity and fear within you and within others. Only He can heal the hurting. Going to God will help you know how to help your spouse or your friends. Going to God will reveal to you His purpose and plan. Bring your lack to Him and He will make abundance. Bring your brokenness to Him and He will make a masterpiece. Bring your pain and He will give you joy. How wonderful to know we serve a God who is always more than enough!
You always belong
If we feel we need to be successful to be loved, then we consistently keep turning toward outward “measures of success” to maintain the relationship. We will stay on the scale. We will keep checking for “like” on Instagram. We will continuously ask for validation because on the inside; our insecurity says you don’t belong.
With Christ, we always belong. We don’t have to work to earn a spot. We don’t have to prove our worth. He has a place reserved just for you no one else can ever take. When Jesus gave His life as a ransom, He did it with each of us on His mind. He made room for us to be a part of His body. We always belong.
My everything is in YOU
When you feel you have no worth,
When you think you have lost your identity
When motherhood is hard,
When you feel too weak to be strong
Choose to put your everything in Christ. Lay every thought, every expectation, every insecurity at the feet of the one who created you. When we choose to put our everything in Christ, even our failures can be used for our good. Even when we feel insecure, we continue to decide to move past trusting our emotions to choosing to trust in Christ instead. Trust He will order your steps (Proverbs 3: 5-6), trust He has a time forever season of your life (Ecclesiastes 3:1), trust He works everything together for your good (Romans 8:28). We have to choose; we will be anchored in the truth of God’s word or in the fleeting changes of insecurities?